“A wise son hears his father’s instruction, but a scoffer does not listen to rebuke.”
A scoffer is someone who resists coaching and instruction. The scoffer refuses to admit mistakes and cannot tolerate a correction that points out the need for improvement. As a result, the scoffer cannot and will not improve behavior.
At Focus 3, we teach a simple and powerful discipline: No BCD. Don’t blame, complain, or defend your ego. In other words, no scoffing. We have been teaching no BCD for many years now, and it has gained a large following. People and organizations have rallied to the call. It has become an anthem for teams and a daily motto for thousands of people around the world. It gains traction and momentum every day.
People intuitively know that BCD is counterproductive.
The bottom line is that BCD doesn’t work. It is lazy, and it takes virtually no effort or skill. Worse, it is cowardly. BCD does not achieve goals, it doesn’t solve problems, and it doesn’t improve relationships.
- Blaming indicates you are irresponsible and untrustworthy.
- Complaining makes you inefficient and unenjoyable.
- Defensiveness reveals your ego and your weakness.
The “no BCD” rule does not mean ignoring problems; it means solving them. Wise people understand there will always be problems in a fallen world, and they invest their time and energy in finding solutions.
The wise person takes feedback to heart. They don’t engage in BCD. Instead, they seek to solve problems. They listen to feedback and instruction. They want constructive criticism. They want to be coached. They want to get better.
Trust God, listen to feedback, and do the work. No BCD.
“When a scoffer is punished, the simple becomes wise; when a wise man is instructed, he gains knowledge.” (Proverbs 21.11)